The marital home during divorce
What happens to the house?
It is the first question in almost every Colorado divorce and the one with the most money riding on it. There are only four real answers. Here is what each one costs, who it fits, and the deadline that catches people.
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Sell and split
Clean break, both names off the loan the day it closes. Costs about 7 to 9 percent of the price.
Option 2One spouse buys the other out
Refinance, HELOC or trade other assets. The rate trap: a 3% loan becomes a 7% loan.
Option 3Delay the sale
One spouse and the kids stay until a trigger date. Years of shared risk, spelled out in the decree.
Option 4Assume the existing loan
Keep the low rate. Easy on the deed, hard on the note. Works best on FHA and VA loans.
Colorado does not give the house to either spouse automatically. The court divides marital property equitably, which means fairly, not 50/50. In practice the house is sold and the proceeds split, one spouse buys the other out, the sale is delayed for the kids, or one spouse assumes the loan. Which one fits depends on three numbers: what the house is worth, what is owed, and what each of you can afford alone.
The three numbers that decide it
Before anyone argues about who deserves the house, get these on paper. Every other decision flows from them.
A Denver-metro example, with real numbers
The detached-home median in the Denver metro is $649,500 (DMAR, August 2026 data). Say the loan balance is $350,000 at 3 percent, so the payment is about $1,476 a month and the equity is $299,500, or $149,750 each. Here is what the four options look like on that house at the current 30-year rate of 6.95 percent (Freddie Mac, September 17, 2026).
Sell and split
Selling costs run about $42,000 (commission, title, doc fee, prorations). After the $350,000 payoff, roughly $257,000 is left: about $128,500 each. Close before the decree and up to $500,000 of gain is tax-free on a joint return.
How to sell during a divorceBuy out with a refinance
New loan of $499,750 ($350,000 payoff plus $149,750 buyout). At 6.95 percent the payment jumps from $1,476 to about $3,308 before taxes and insurance. You need roughly $108,000 of income to qualify with no other debt.
The buyout mathBuy out with a HELOC
Keep the 3 percent first mortgage and add a $149,750 line of credit. Total payment about $2,474 a month. The catch: the other spouse stays on the first mortgage until it is refinanced or released.
When a HELOC worksDelay the sale four years
One spouse and the kids stay, the decree names the trigger, both stay on title. If the house grows 3 percent a year it is worth about $731,000 at sale. The spouse who left carried a $350,000 liability the whole time.
Deferred sale, honestlyWhich option fits which situation?
We both want a clean break and neither of us can carry it alone
Sell. It is the only option that takes both names off the loan on a known date. Read how to sell during a divorce so the sale itself does not become the next fight.
One of us wants to stay and can qualify alone
Buyout. Get that spouse pre-approved on the real numbers before the settlement is signed. Settlements that assume a refinance nobody verified are how people lose the house six months later. Keep the house.
The kids should not move, but nobody can refinance
Deferred sale, with every detail in the decree: who pays what, how paydown is credited, the exact trigger, who picks the agent and price. What has to be written down.
The loan is FHA or VA at a low rate
Ask about an assumption before you refinance anything. The staying spouse still has to qualify, and the leaving spouse is liable until the servicer signs a release, but the rate can be worth $20,000 a year. Assumptions and releases.
One of us owned the house before the marriage
The value on the wedding date is separate property. The growth since then, and any paydown with marital money, is marital and divisible (C.R.S. 14-10-113(4)). Separate versus marital.
The five mistakes we see every month
- Agreeing to a refinance deadline before a lender has looked at the numbers. Decrees commonly give 60 to 90 days. If the refinance fails, the standard remedy is a forced sale.
- Trading a quitclaim deed for peace. A deed changes title. It does not change the loan. The court’s own form says the lender “is not required to release you from the debt” (JDF 1115).
- Trading home equity for a 401(k) dollar for dollar. $300,000 in a traditional 401(k) is worth about $221,000 after tax. $300,000 of home equity is worth about $279,000. Why they are not equal.
- Closing after the decree when the gain is over $250,000. The $500,000 exclusion needs a joint return. The timing rule.
- Letting the ex keep paying the joint mortgage with no monitoring. One 30-day late lands on both credit reports and can cost about 100 points. Protecting your credit.
When you are ready
Ask a divorce real estate specialist, not a friend with a license.
A neutral agent gives both spouses the same written valuation at the same time, works with both attorneys, writes the pricing and disbursement terms into the stipulation, and never carries messages between you. That is what we do at The Kenna Real Estate Group. It is also what we teach at the free workshop, whether or not you ever call us.
Where to go next
- The house: keep, sell or buy out
- Who gets the house in Colorado
- Keep the house
- Sell the house
- What is the house worth
- The mortgage after divorce
- Taxes when you sell
- Buying after divorce
- Why a divorce realtor
- Mike Oswald at Rate: refinance and buyout math
- Selling in a divorce: FAQ on kennarealestate.com
- Search every home for sale in Colorado
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